How to Stop Chasing Perfect and Start Feeling Good

How to Stop Chasing Perfect and Start Feeling Good

By Kristina Carrera, LCSW, LAC, DVCS – Anchor of Peace

Hey friend, I want to share some ideas for letting go of perfectionism. That constant push to do everything flawlessly can feel exhausting, but there are skills you can practice to feel lighter and more at ease.

One skill is learning to prioritize. Not everything needs the same level of attention or effort. Ask yourself what really matters most in a situation and focus there. The rest can be “good enough.”

Another skill is practicing gratitude. When we focus on what is going well or what we have accomplished, it shifts our mindset away from what’s missing or imperfect. Try writing down a few things each day that went well or that you are proud of.

Setting boundaries is also key. Saying yes to everything can fuel perfectionism. Learn to protect your time and energy. Saying no to some tasks or requests doesn’t make you lazy or uncaring; it helps you do your best in the areas that really count.

You can also practice slowing down. Perfectionism often pushes us to rush and overdo things. Take a moment to pause, breathe, and check in with yourself before moving on to the next task. This helps you act intentionally instead of reacting to pressure.

Finally, surround yourself with people who support you and remind you that you are enough as you are. Talking with friends, mentors, or a therapist can help you feel grounded and encouraged when the pull toward perfection feels strong.

Remember, letting go of perfection doesn’t mean giving up. It means using these skills to live with more ease, enjoy your wins, and still grow. You can chase excellence without letting perfection chase you.

Written 9/28/2025